If the act of simply sharing your honest opinion, and supporting why you think that way, is rude… then I’m super curious to know what lying is considered. This has been happening so often, it frustrates me. It’s not the subjects spoken of, the activities involved, but the simple accusation of being rude just because you truthfully disagree.
I try my hardest to NOT be a rude person, hell… I go out of my way far too often to spare the feelings of others. I don’t seek to offend or seek to bring someone down, by any means. That isn’t what my energy goes towards, and never has been. I will not go as far as silencing my standpoint or personal taste just to please the miscalculations of another.
I work with the public daily, and society is always offended so easily by honesty; it’s really frazzling. Just the other day, a customer asked what I thought about a sweater she was buying. I even simmered down my initial thought of “it’s ugly” to respond with, “it’s not bad, but it’s not something of my taste… so I’m not the one to ask.” The, then offended, customer ends any pleasant conversation and is insulted just because I didn’t lie and say it was a great choice.
A friend who is always nagging and causing drama with the father of her newborn baby, who is also her boyfriend. She asks me what I think she should do because nothing is changing, or what I think about it all. I explain that I would give him more room and not smother him with questioning or paranoia of the past. I tell her that he is in love with her very much and their child, and she needs to stop picking at all of the little things before it messes up the larger picture they have going on. She didn’t like that at all, but it was what was on my mind. Deep down, I know she knows it’s the truth for her as well… when she is calmed down, she says it herself. But instead, she hasn’t been speaking with me because I took her boyfriend’s side!
Then today a family member finds me to be rude from concern, and even with careful wording. Mainly because I don’t agree with teaming up with a withdrawal-saving clinic for a steady dosing of a drug you’re already addicted to by means of recreation. If you were a junkie who couldn’t kick the junk and a clinic was helping you to seriously ween off- that’s different; but these clinics are mostly concerned with profit, not getting people clean. Add in an honest response about not taking spirituality seriously with people who overuse drugs, and constantly attribute the constant use as spiritual enlightenment (not even meaning the member, they’re a pronounced addict) and you only want to bring the person down without even stating it was about the person.
Assumptions. Annoying ass assumptions.
Even if a person’s response were to strike me negatively, I am always more welcoming of an honest response than anyone just staying shut up or not sharing a difference in opinion for fear of offending me.
If you don’t want someone’s honest opinion or explanation of why they don’t agree with what is being said/portrayed- then you shouldn’t share things; sharing opens up the grounds for criticism or difference in opinion.
No respect for racists. No sympathy. No patience. No understanding. Nothing. They don’t get to deny entire groups of people their humanity and still expect to have their humanity respected.